SELF ABUSE ISN’T SEXY
𝐔𝐧𝐢𝐭 𝐎𝐧𝐞: 𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐢𝐭𝐜𝐡
𝘊𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘵𝘦𝘳 One: Reality Check
Lesson: SELF ABUSE ISN’T SEXY
Fad diets and rapid weight loss are bullshit?
Let me explain (to your inner bitch) why focusing on sustainable lifestyle changes, not rapid weight loss, is the mindset game changer.
Sustainable lifestyle changes (like reducing sugar intake or moving your body more) won’t always be fun AT FIRST, but they should never be PUNISHMENT or cruel.
Sustainable changes require SELF COMPASSION and PATIENCE.
You’ve got to stop going to extremes.
Deprivation and abuse are not tools... they’re toxic cycles.
Treating your body or your mind like shit so that it does what you want for a few weeks doesn’t lead to long-term changes.
It leads to toxic mindsets and self abuse cycles that can linger for years.
And… it lead to rebounds.
Which means that weight that you tortured yourself to get off of you is going to come right back.
In full sugar-craving glory.
That’s the unsustainable.
That’s the point.
Your inner bitch is thriving on the punishment of strict regiment and the release of fucking up. I said it.
Your inner bitch is GETTING OFF on FUCKING UP.
Your inner bitch is GETTING OFF on treating yourself like shit.
No, you’re not a perfectionist.
You’re a masochist.
Tough shit. It’s time to change.
INSTEAD, don’t shame or criticize yourself. Start building yourself up.
Instead of creating an ongoing list with reasons why you suck or you’re not good enough or you’re not brave enough or you’re not strong enough to change your life, start recognizing the steps you are taking towards changing your life and celebrate them... in your head, out loud, in writing, in that blog that you’re secretly posting. Start giving yourself credit.
I know this is hard. That’s your inner bitch.
Other tips that take less work?
Find a way to enjoy the food you’re eating, either for its inherent good or by making healthier versions of your favorites. Sure it won’t always stack up with the original at first… But soon it’ll be the new normal. Soon you won’t care that your pizza is on cauliflower or your burger is wrapped in lettuce. I know that seems hard to believe now but it’s true.
Hate meal prepping? Figure out a food delivery plan like @trifectasystems or a couple easy prep hacks. Or just pick your favorite restaurants locally and find good healthy options there, instead of choosing the cheesecake.
And working out? Exercise doesn’t have to suck. It doesn’t have to feel like a punishment. Get that out of your head right now. Find ways to fit exercise into your life. If your inner bitch is running the shots and carrying a whip, you’re doing it wrong.
Hate the gym but love hiking? Go on fucking hikes.
Don’t have time for long workouts? Start doing faster paced HIIT workouts.
Find lifting weights lame but love salsa dancing. Go salsa dancing.
Feel uncomfortable being the biggest person in the gym? Realize that can be a strength and start powerlifting.
Find movement you enjoy. AND DO IT OFTEN.
Stop getting off on treating yourself like shit. It’s lame. Fitness isn’t about punishing yourself, it’s about honoring yourself.
So fuck you, inner bitch.